How to Make a Girl Orgasm – Essential Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

I have a big problem with this article title.

Yes, the article that I wrote. The title “How to Make a Girl Orgasm”.

I hate it. Want to know why?

Because you absolutely, positively, 100% cannot MAKE a girl orgasm.

BUT – you CAN help her achieve orgasm.

As a consultant (of sorts) to many guys who are frustrated with their sex life – specifically, the lack of orgasms their girl has – there is usually one incorrect belief I have to “nip in the bud” before we can deal with any REAL issues.

Sex is a two-way street. It requires effort on behalf of both parties to achieve a desired result. Hence, it is not your job to give her an orgasm nor her job to have one – it is a result obtained by both of you working together in harmony.

I’m not going to give you the tips in this article I usually do such as positions, mindset shifts, techniques and so on. If you’re looking for that, visit my website or blog.

What I’m going to talk about in this article is steps you can take to ensure that your girl doesn’t have anything going on that would stop her from achieving orgasm.

Possible Problem #1: She’s Trying too Hard

Have you ever tried to grab wet soap, or something of a similar, slippery nature? Did you notice how the harder you squeezed it, the further away it flew?

Achieving orgasm is like that. If you focus on it, you’re not going to get it. Instead, you have to just allow it to happen.

If your girl is desperately trying to have an orgasm, there’s a good chance that’s your problem right there. You need to tell her to relax, loosen up, and just enjoy the sexual experience – if she has an orgasm great, if not, who cares?

Don’t pressure her or make her feel like you need her to have an orgasm. Tell her it doesn’t matter to you – and mean it. And you know what? You’ve just doubled your chances of her actually having one.

Funny how things work sometimes, isn’t it?

Possible Problem #2: She Won’t Let Go

As you’re no doubt aware, having an orgasm is a very powerful experience.

Imagine what the best orgasm you’ve ever had is like – and multiply it by ten.

That’s a girl’s orgasm. It’s much better for them than it is for us.

Because it’s a more powerful sensation, it can be scary. Let’s face it, when we have sex, we don’t care about anything but the sex. Girls are constantly worrying and obsessing about how their hair is, how their makeup is, if they look fat, and so on. This means that sometimes letting go and having an orgasm is a frightening prospect for them. When you orgasm, you can’t control things sometimes. You might make weird sounds, shudder uncontrollable, make funny faces or whatever.

Reassure her. Tell her that she’s sexy and that she makes you really want her. Let her know you really enjoy it when she cuts loose and lets go. Hopefully she’ll get the message and let you do your thing – and herself do her thing as well.

Possible Problem #3: She Thinks Sex is Wrong

Society has brought many girls up to believe that if they are promiscuous, or enjoy sex, that they are somehow “dirty” or “immoral”.

As I’m sure you’re aware, nothing could be further from the truth. Good sex is an essential part of any relationship, and enjoyment of the act is crucial.

There is no easy fix to this, but you have to talk to her, and show her that you don’t respect her any less because she enjoys sexual activities. I find the best way to do this is positive reinforcement – tell her you love it when she wants to try new things, suggest new positions, introduce some toys into the bedroom, whatever. Try and get her to let go of her rigid beliefs and to allow herself to feel pleasure again.



Source by Daniel Scott

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